The Drunk Caller/Texter

Hey Loves!

She let's get straight to spilling the T. A fellow love and I were discussing after club calling/texting. We know we've all done it when we are a lil' under the influence. However, we all have the one friend who calls their ex without fail as soon as the liquor swirls around their lips. We feel the need to take their phone as soon as we park the car in front of the club/party destination. So you know what?


*Whistle Blow!!* Unnecessary cover...15 yard penalty*

Cut it out Sir Slurs a lot and Miss LOL :)

Honey you need to stop using liquor as an excuse to talk to someone you still have feelings for. It looks really bad that you only call them under the influence. Words slurred and a bunch of whiny "I love yous" does not make your situation turn in your favor!

How long are you going to hide behind your after-party guise when dealing with them? They will never take you seriously. "Drunk words speak sober thoughts, Miss ref" ....*side eye* So I've been told. But nothing speaks louder and a tad more clear than sober thoughts speaking sober emotions to another sober individual.

Get rid of that liquid courage...or you'll never know if they're just appeasing your drunken state with their words or being truthful.

Love & Flags
Miss Ref

My Call : Food for Thought

So my loves, one of your brethren has been receiving daily messages of prose and poetry of inspiration. I believe we all need some soul hugging and a bit of ressurance that we are not alone in our troubles..so I'm going to start sharing my messages with you!

"If I told you I loved you (or anyone else for that matter) how could you believe me? Know it was true...if not for the heartbreak that preceded my presence? Thank that pain and with the help of a new love never know it again" --Miss Ref


Love & Flags

The Cyclist

Hello Loves,

Unfortunately my personal schedule has created quite a rift in my posting schedule. In spite of all this I have a scenario from one of your fellow loves to report. This young lady is a new mommy and in a "relationship" with the father. They have been together for awhile, however his infidelity is obvious and his position as a "dad" is questionable. He's in and out of jail, never has a real job, and doesn't really have any apparent goals or aspirations. Now he's back in jail and back in drama. Side chicks (see Main Chick vs Side Chick), money issues, playing games from behind bars! How bold are we here?!?! *Whistle blow* This dude is waaaay off sides

So what do we dub her loves? The Cyclist of course. She is the girl who goes through the motions over and over again never straying from the path. She's becoming content with the drama, the pain, the games. She is in the middle of big mess that is in desperate need of cleaning.

When there is a child involved, we must always remember to do what is best for them. We can not ....CAN NOT have a child in an unstable environment. If he is doing nothing to change let him go love. Pull up your bootstraps and hit the pavement running. Stop depending on someone who doesn't want to hold your weight! Get a job, be empowered. Show yourself and your child that real love is what makes you wake up each morning and strive for what's best. That real love is the love your child will always have for you. No man can ever duplicate that. While it is sad that he will not be in the picture, don't dwell. You can't make people do what they don't want to do. If he doesn't want to provide financially, you take bigger steps to ensure that IS HIS RESPONSIBILITY AS A FATHER. However, you must provide financially and emotionally for your child as well. The time you spend chasing him and his nonsense, and the money your throw away to his hands is being taken from your child.

Take a step back and stop worrying about how he will feel, and what's good for him. He never thinks twice about his actions and how they will affect you or your child.

Love & Flags
-Miss Ref

Woe Is Me

Hello Loves!

Sorry for the gap in posting, I've been quite the busy bee lately. Let's examine today's dilemma.

We have a 21-year old college student in a perpetual rut. This hunnie bunny is having quite the time in all aspects of life. No job, grades that seesaw, and quite a track record when it comes to relationships. "I don't know what to do", they said to me. That's their favorite song to sing WOE IS ME.

*Whistle Blow* Delay of Game!! Baby get it together, this song has been on repeat for awhile.

Life deals us lemons right? Making lemonade of these bad boys can be quite the feat! However my loves we must be willing to put forth the effort to get what we desire. Nothing will just fall into our laps. If you want better grades, find a studying style that suites your personality and lets you hold on to the information. Examine the way you take notes and make adjustments where necessary. Could a total stranger read them and understand the material? Compare your best work to your worst work. What's missing?

Get out there and do some job hunting! Do footwork, look on various sites that offer employment opportunities. For goodness sake hunnie bunny you're in college NETWORK!! This is the place to do it. You would be surprised at the connections your peers and professors have. Pass around your resume and CV. Have people on the look out, but be prepared to do some work on your own. Do not rely on others! They'll give you the key, it's your responsibility to open the door and walk in.

As far as relationships go, step back and take a look at yourself. What do you bring to the table? What pattern of relationships do you find yourself in? What do you want the other person to have? Are you in it for comfort and selfish reasons, or do you really value being in relationships? You have to answer these questions in order to embark on the path to a healthy relationship love.

If you want success in all aspects of live you have to put out the effort and maintain the motivation. You're life is only as successful as you allow it.

Love & Whistles
~Miss Ref